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penelope

There once was a lad from a northern suburban village called Cleveland, Ohio. He had a wonderful close lady friend from the southern, sweltering, hot city of Tampa Bay, Florida. One fall day this lad decided to visit his sweet lady friend. He hopped into his powerful little, black Volkswagen Golf and made the long journey down south. You see, this lad and lady were the best of friends. They laughed and played, talked and supported each other for years and years. When the two reunited once again there was nothing but fun to be had. Together they jumped out of planes, explored beautiful sandy beaches and flew on roller coasters. It was a bittersweet day when the lad had to return home to his dreary suburb and continue his responsibilities in his Cleveland tower. Off he went, singing some lovely Chesney all the way home, thinking of his sweet lady friend. You see, although the lad and sweet lady friend were truly just the best of friends – something had happened. In the middle of all the fun, the lad and lady friend began to fall in love. Is it possible? But they were the best of friend for years and years, how could this be? How does the lad tell his sweet lady friend this news? Oh my, what to do. The lad, being the extravagant lad he was purchased the largest, sweetest, pinkest and cuddliest puppy in all the land. He had this puppy, named Penelope, quickly delivered to the sweet lady’s castle. When the sweet lady friend received this beautiful, extravagant package she yelped “oh my, what could this be?!” She opened up the parcel to only have this beautiful five foot puppy named Penelope come tumbling down on her, it was the most beautiful bundle of pink plush she had ever seen. The sweet lady friend was quite surprised by this extravagant, lovely gesture by the lad, for they were just the best of friends.  What does this mean? The sweet lady friend was truly enchanted by Penelope…and the lad. Together they reunited once again, spoke of their love and lived happily ever after.

On Saturday I will have been married to the man of my dreams for 6 happy years!  It’s a family joke that it all began with Penelope, there was even a skit performed involving this pink puppy during our engagement dinner!  Six years and two kids later, I still have the most awesomist husband in the land . . .happy anniversary James, I love you.

It’s a good thing we had girls . . . because where else would you put a 5 foot pink puppy?

February 25, 2006

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nursing baby #2

Breastfeeding – you really have no idea what it entails until you have to go through it. Amelia is 8 months old today and until just a few months ago when she started solids, she was exclusively breastfed.  The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that babies be breastfed for one year, I was able to accomplish this with Adeline and my goal is to do the same with Amelia. Breastfeeding is not as “natural” as one may think it is. I mean, we are literally, physically made to breastfeed – how difficult could it be? That’s what went through my head when I had Adeline and decided to try breastfeeding. My experiences with both girls were initially very different.

With Adeline I had a very tough time with nursing…those first few weeks, maybe even months were terrible. I had trouble with her latching on, being engorged and it HURT – a lot. I was so uncomfortable at times that I dreaded nursing, I would even pump and give her the bottle to avoid actually nursing (it was that painful). I wanted to quit, but I was determined to try and stick with it. I have a MPH, I did my research on this, I knew how good it was for baby & mom. I’m so glad I stuck with because it did get SO MUCH BETTER.

With Amelia I was more mentally prepared on what to expect. Surprisingly though, it was easier the second time around. I wasn’t nearly in as much pain as I was with Adeline. I don’t know if I was just holding Adeline incorrectly due to the C-section or if it’s just easier with a second baby? Who knows, I was happy. The beginning stages still has it’s ups and down and you still feel like a cow. But long term, it goes by quick, the bond is priceless and the benefits are endless.

Everyone is different, every baby is different. Do not overwhelm yourself with guilt and anxiety if you cannot breastfeed – as moms we put enough pressure on ourselves as it is. Different things work for different people.  But if you want to give it a try – do it. It’s not a walk in the park for everyone though, read up on it so you at least somewhat know what to expect and your not setting yourself up to fail. There is no formula like your breast milk despite what manufacturers try to convince you of, the chemical composition of your breast milk is the perfect,  source of nutrition made specifically for your baby.

Being a new mom I always found tips and advice from other moms to be very helpful (I will take what I can get to try and figure this stuff out). Now that I’ve been able to do this with two kids I feel more confident in what I’m doing. You have to find what works for you and your lifestyle…but here are some question that I had as a mom and the answers I have found to work for me.

How do you know when your baby is hungry? How often do you nurse?

I am not the kind of person that can just “whip it out” whenever my baby starts crying out in public.  Nope, can’t do it. Not comfortable with it and not a fan of the “feeding on demand” philosophy. If I would be feeding Amelia on demand I would be exhausted, barely sleeping, worrying if she is “snack” feeding or getting full feedings and not be able to go anywhere those first few months without the baby. Instead, I did “Parent Directed Feeding” (which I first read about in Baby Wise) – I basically put her on a feeding “schedule.”  In the beginning I nursed A LOT, every 2.5-3 hours, 8-10 times a day.  But as Amelia got older and could be stretched a bit longer, I slowly decreased my number of feedings.  She wasn’t eating any less, just less frequently.  This was great because it was manageable, we established a consistent sleep/feeding/play time routine. When I wanted to go on a date  or possibly find the time get my hair done, I could leave the little princess with a babysitter and not panic or worry that she might get hungry -  I just worked around her “schedule.”  I was always worried about how am I going to occupy a two year while trying to nurse Amelia.  It’s really not that bad, it’s just a matter of balancing the routines and making sure one is occupied while the other is being fed. Mind you this does not always go as smoothly as it may sound.  There are (many) times when she goes through growth spurts, wakes up early from naps or is just very upset and I feed her because I don’t know what else do to. But you do what you have to and then just try to get back on track.

How do you breastfeed while transitioning to solids?

This is a question I remember asking myself with both Adeline & Amelia – what’s the best way to transition to solids but still continue breastfeeding? Breastfeeding still continues to be your main source of nutrition for your baby, it’s just supplemented by baby food. I started by just giving her a bit of rice cereal in the mornings (after first feeding) until she got the hang of it. Then I gradually increased to other foods and supplementing her afternoon and evening feedings. Her meals align with our family meals so we can all sit down and eat together.  She has an opportunity to watch her big sis Adeline eat and I strongly believe this makes a big impact on her easting habits.  (amazing how she idolizes her sister already)

What is your “schedule” at 8 months old?

I was always curious to know what other moms do, especially  when I was trying to figure out routines.  It’s just helpful to get ideas or try something new as these “schedules” are always changing.  Here is our current routine at 8 months old: ~ 7 am – Amelia wakes up and nurses, we get breakfast ready and all eat. ~10 am – nap time till about 11:30 – 12.  Nurse and then eat lunch.  Playtime until 2:00 – 2:30 – then nap time till about 4 pm.  Then she nurses again and plays a bit while I get dinner ready.  We eat dinner, clean up, family time.  7:15 – 7:30 – bed time routine and nurse right before I put her down.

Every baby is different,  I can’t stress this enough. Each baby has their own eating and sleeping habits that you can develop into a “routine” that works for you.  It’s crazy trying to keep up with my two precious blessings, but having some structure is what keeps this household sane and functioning (for the most part).

What has been your greatest nursing challenge?

Amelia, being the sweet heart that she is has decided to throw a little challenge my way with all this. She refuses to take the bottle. I’ve tried skipping feedings, different bottles (even this Mimi Jumi bottle which I have named the “boob bottle”), leaving the house, different people giving her the bottle, but after days of torture and multiple attempts I gave up. She won (this time). This was never an issue with Adeline so I wasn’t expecting it. But I introduced the bottle with Adeline at a very early stage, I waited with Amelia till I believe around 4 months.  I don’t know if it was because of this or just the different experience (she also refuses the pacifier)  but the little stinker is stubborn. She would go to bed hungry before she would drink out of the bottle. Eventually I’m sure she would have had to take the bottle if she was hungry enough (right?!) but at the end of the day it just wasn’t worth the torture anymore.  I would just have to be “that mom” with a baby stuck to me for every feeding for a few more months  . . . she’s worth it ;-)

 What are your nursing essentials?

1. Nursing cover, it’s definitely good to have one when your out and about and need to nurse . . . balboa nursing cover is my favorite.  You get really good at finding the best “nursing spots” around town.  Many malls and attractions now also have nursing rooms for moms.
2. Nipple cream, so helpful at first!! I used Lansinoh lanolin with Adeline and then Motherlove Herbal Nipple Cream with Amelia. I didn’t need it as much with Amelia but I preferred the motherlove.
3. Nursing PJ’s and bras. Do not underestimate the importance of a good nursing bra, you pay for what you get. Go and try some on to see what works for you, love these comfy ones and sleep bras. Nursing pj’s are probably not essential, but so nice to have. I have the best, soft, comfy maternity/nursing pj’s from a pea in the pod and I loooovvveee them. It was the only thing I could fit into during third trimester, loved having cute pj’s at the hospital and was great for those middle of the night feedings when your half asleep (get one with the little robe – so comfy!).
4. Nursing Pads such as the Lansinoh disposable nursing pads (my favorite and Target now sells them in packs of 100).
6. Breast pump – there are so many different breast pumps available. Medela is an established brand, I received the Medela “Pump in style advanced” when I was pregnant with Adeline as a baby shower gift, no complaints.
6. Nursing pillow such as the boppy – I love my boppy (doubles as a support for sitting when baby get older).
7. Baby Connect – a electronic baby tacker and log. Put this on your iphone or ipad to track baby’s sleeping and feeding patterns. So helpful in the beginning when you are trying to establish a pattern!

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Valentines

Tried my hand at making some little Valentine’s Day cards this year.  Sweet Adeline loves receiving cards (thanks to her personally addressed mail from my sister in Ohio) and I know she will be absolutely thrilled with an opportunity to distribute her own this year (love this age!) I only had a few minutes to do this, but it’s a cute first attempt and gets the job done!

Still in need of some of your own little cards?  Check out these free, printable, adorable cards from One Charming Party!

 

 

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family fun day at Busch Gardens

on the swings – her favorite

I’m on day one of cleaning the house (yes, it takes me like 3 days), I have a “to do” list a mile long and James has barely recovered from traveling . . . so what do we do? We take a day off and go to Busch Gardens for a family fun day!  Sometimes you just have to take a break from it all and go have some fun. We happen to have some passes that will be expiring soon . . . and with the little ones we never last long so we went just for the morning.  It was a blast.

As soon as we walked into the park James ran ahead to check out Cheetah Hunt (new ride).  The girls and I took our sweet time getting there checking out the awesome hippopotamus sleeping in the water with the fish and turtles.  When we got there we were watching the ride and I happened to snap a picture, the ride goes so fast you can’t really see who is on it.  When I got home and was looking through the pictures I saw that I actually caught James on the ride! What are the chances??! How fun!

Best part of Busch Garden Tampa Bay for toddlers is Sesame Street Safari of Fun.  Awesome place to run around . .  they have 2 sections of spray fountains, a variety of toddler rides, huge sand pit, bouncing trampoline thing, tree houses and of course – Elmo.  What is it about Elmo?  There is something about him that kids are just attracted to.  I don’t even know where Adeline learned “Elmo” was but it was one of the first characters she could recognize (we barely watch Sesame Street).  I suppose he is just a nice, furry, loveable kind of guy.

the star himself

Amelia went on her first ride – the “Safari go-round.”  Poor thing wasn’t a big fan…isn’t that the cutest little pout ever?!

Playing in the fountains during Lunch on January 26 . . .the benefits of living in Florida during the winter.  It was a beautiful day in every way.

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Learning to Eat

Here we go again – starting solids with Amelia!  A few years ago I did a post on Making My Own Baby Food and it turned out to be one of the best things we could have done for Adeline.  I should give you a disclaimer, I am not a nutritionist or even a “health nut” by any means.  I really enjoy food and am known to eat anything (good and bad).  And although I appreciate healthy food and it truly makes me feel good and definitely helps with the waistline, I am obsessed with my Chipotle burrito, french fries with ranch dressing and the occasional Big Mac.  But when it came to transitioning my babies to solids, I became much more aware and educated as to what we put in to our bodies (or at least into theirs).  I guess it started with the breastfeeding, I figured that if I was to put so much effort into making breastfeeding work for us, this healthy all natural approach was going to keep going.

Making your own baby food is so much easier then people think it is.  I’m not a spectacular “cook” by any means and I’m all about getting a quick and easy (but yummy) dinner on the table.  We got the Beaba Babycook when Adeline was a baby and we’ve been using it ever since.  When she started solids I introduced only cereal, then vegetables and lastly fruits (each 1-2 weeks apart).  I started with simple, individual vegetables such as carrots, sweet potato, broccoli, butternut squash – and as she got older I would make a variety of combinations or just puree whatever we were having for dinner.  I would make several portions at a time and freeze them for later.  Adeline is now 34 months old and still eats her broccoli, carrots, blueberries, apples, etc – it’s awesome.   Not only is she a great eater, but she truly enjoys her meals, has a solid immune system and incredible health (we have been seriously blessed).  She has developed preferences, but is required to at least try new foods once and often ends up liking it anyways.  I contribute her good eating habits to two things – 1) Introducing “real” food from the start.  From carrot purees to steamed carrot slices -  she has always had the same thing just in different textures.  She was already used to the taste so transitioning from baby food to healthy finger foods and normal dinners was never an issue  2) Eating meals as a family and not by snacking – being a role model.  We’ve always been big on sitting down at the table and eating meals together.  We don’t let her have lots of snacks right before lunch or dinner so she doesn’t ruin her appetite and we stress the value of family time at the table.

As I stated before,  I’m not a 100% organic, non processed foodie.  We eat mac & cheese, hot dogs & sugary cereals – but we also have fresh fish, carrots and rice. Adeline eats gold fish, candy and loves McDonald’s chicken nuggets – but we try to keep all these things in moderation.   I  admire moms like Lisa Leake from 100 Days of Real Food who prepare organic and natural foods on a daily basis, I truly believe it’s the best thing you can do for yourself nutritionally.  Our bodies are developed and fueled by what we eat.

There are a lack of studies on the specific roles nutrition has on the neurological and physical development in preschool children (as this age group is difficult to measure), but we do know that there is no part of our physical or psychological existence that is not affected by nutrition. From the first stage of gestational development during pregnancy, to birth and beyond – nutrition plays a role.  We all know that malnutrition is detrimental to our health and overall development as the consequences are obvious and well studied.  Just think of everything your child learns to do in it’s first few years of life – from taking, walking, listening to instructions, engaging in tasks to making decision for themselves.  It’s amazing – we all know the recommendations and benefits from breastfeeding, I would love to know more about the correlations between POSITIVE exposures of vital nutrients in infants and the specific developmental and behavioral outcomes that occur those first few years.

Food for thought . . .

  • Nutrition plays a significant role in your child’s development even during pregnancy.  Rapid brain development occurs during the gestation period – by the time a child is born it has the form of an adult brain and has already developed the necessary neural synapses to have the ability to learn
  • The most extreme brain growth & development occurs between 1 – 5 years of age
  • All nutrients are important for brain development
  • Nutrition can directly effect genetic structure and expression
  • Obesity in children is connected to the eating habits they learn at home from their parents
  • Gerber and Heinz commercial baby food manufactures often replaces real food with water and thickening agents (flours and chemically modified starches) in many of their products for children over six months of age
  • 4 billion babies are born in the Unites States every year. By 12 months of age each infant has consumed and average of 600 jars of baby food – this is a a $1.25 billion a year industry in the US
  • Western European babies consume only about 240 jars and some eastern European countries consume as little as 12 jars
  • Beech-Nut, Earth’s Best, and Growing Healthy do not add sugar or starchy fillers to any single or mixed fruit or vegetable baby food
  • About half of Gerber and Heinz’s second- and third-stage fruits are “fruits with tapioca.”  All varieties of fruit with tapioca contain water, fruit, chemically modified tapioca starch, and sugar or high-fructose corn syrup
  • Baby food manufactures spend millions on advertising campaigns to convince parents that their baby products contain all of the best and essential nutrients for your child’s development in order to gain a parent’s loyalty and trust
  • Read this article for more information on the nutritional quality and cost of commercial baby food

My take on it – we as parents have the responsibility to make the right choices for our children.  It is proven that  children learn what and how much to eat from their parents.  They cannot do it themselves and depend on us 100%.  If I don’t teach them my children to clean up after themselves, be respectful or eat right – I can’t expect them to just grow into it, it’s learned.  Commercial baby food has nutrients, is convenient and easy.  Have I used jarred baby food? Definitely, I’m not about to break out the baby cook on a road trip (although I have taken it when flying to grandmas).  We all want what is best for your kids and there is only so much you can do.  Just be aware of what your putting into your kids bodies and the pros and cons.  Do not be fooled that a jar of bananas is just as nutritional as taking a banana into a bowl and mashing it with a fork.  Millions of infants eat commercial food everyday and have all their nutritional needs met with no health issues, but you have to wonder what physical, psychological and developmental consequences this may have as research is so underdeveloped in this area.

Sources:

Georgieff, M.K. (2007).  Nutrition and the developing brain: nutrient priorities and measurement. American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 85 (20), 614 – 620.

Rosales, F.J., Reznick, J.S., Zeisel, S.H. (2009).  Understanding the Role of Nutrition in the Brain & Behavioral Development of Toddlers and Preschool Children: Identifying and Overcoming Methodological Barriers.  Nutritional Neuroscience, 12 (5), 190 – 202.

Scaglioni, S., Salvioni, M., Galimberti, C., (2008). Influence of parental attitude in the development of children eating behavior. British Journal of Nutrition, 99 (1), 22-25.

Stallone, D.D., Jacobson, M.F.  (1995).  Cheating Babies: Nutritional Quality and Cost of Commercial Baby Food. Center for Science in the Public Interest.  Retrieved from http://www.cspinet.org/reports/cheat1.html.

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my top five things with “two kids”

So Amelia is already 6 months old, I can’t believe it.   I’ve survived having a newborn and a 2 year old with no major catastrophes, have kept my sanity and even enjoyed myself.  Here are some key things that have helped me along the way . . .

1. Summer Infant Baby Touch Digital Color Video Monitor – with an added camera.  The only video monitor I could find that automatically scans between two cameras (can connect up to 4). Amazing.  Adeline was being potty trained and recently transitioned into a “big girl” (full size bed) when we had Amelia, it just made me feel so much better to know I could still hear and see her if needed.  She’ll sometimes wake up at night or in the mornings, look at the camera and say “I have to go potty” or “I’m up” (she doesn’t get down on her own) and we’ll just come and get her.  There is a “talk back feature” on the monitor as well, never thought I would use this but it’s genius.  If I’m stuck with the baby I can tell Adeline over the camera that I will be there in a minute and she’ll just play in her bed till I come get her.  Love it.  2. ERGObaby Carrier – by Petunia Pickle Bottom.  So I had a babybjorn one with Adeline and it was great, except for the fact that my babies are huge and my back kills me after I have it on for 10 minutes.  I have discovered ERGObaby, awesome back support and perfect for those first few months when you have a evening family event but the baby still needs to squeeze in that third nap of the day.  And the petunia pickle bottom one is just so pretty!! 3.BABYBJORN Babysitter Balance – no gadgets, batteries, vibrations – just a plain and simple bouncy chair.  We got this as a gift with our first one and it is the best.  It folds flat when going to grandmas and is easy to move around the house. It has helped me finish showers, make dinner, eat dinner and hang out in the backyard.  It’s comfy and Amelia can make herself bounce in it or I can rock her with my foot when I’m desperate and need 5 more minutes (she loves bouncing in it).  4. Bugaboo Wheeled Board – I love our Bugaboo.  I don’t like traveling with it (although I have) but I definitely have a crush on this ridiculously overpriced stroller. We have a side by side double for long trips which is convenient but for short trips and narrow places, it is definitely not.  Being 2, I wasn’t sure if Adeline was too little for the board, but she loves it!  We use it all the time and it has made going places with two little kids so much easier 5. Keep a SCHEDULE.  If you want to keep your sanity at hand my biggest recommendation is to try and develop a schedule.  At 6 months old Amelia has a short morning nap after breakfast and then a nice long 2 1/2 – 3/1/2 hour nap in the afternoon  (she recently stopped a short third evening nap).   Adeline takes her 2 – 3 hour nap during the same time spam…it’s amazing, I usually get at least 2 hours to myself every afternoon.  It can be done.   I love my kids, but some quite time is dear and precious. The hardest thing is trying to get that morning nap while maintaining a morning social life with Adeline.  Flexibility is required and things often do not go according to plan, but I try, and when it works – it’s fabulous.

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to my sisters

I am beyond blessed with the world’s best sisters.  I have three – yes, it can be overwhelming, chaotic and emotional – but they are all special, priceless relationships.  It’s like having three guaranteed best friends (whether they like it or not!)  So to my sisters…

Thank you.

To my little sister, thank you for loving me even when I could be a bully.  For putting up with my craziness and bossiness. For dealing with my projects and adventures.  For being there when I need someone to rely on.  For listening and loving and always being steadfast.  For your patience and dedication, for your commitment in everything you do.

To my older sister. Thank you for your example of perservience and determination.  For pushing me and encouraging me in all that I do.  Thank you for always getting it done.  For never letting anything stop you and showing us what hard work and determination can get.  For your wisdom, boldness and fiestiness.  For your conversations (even when lengthy) and passion.

To my oldest sister.  Thank you for your love and support.  For your kind heart and soft arms.  Thank you for never saying no even when you want to.  For putting up with all of us even when you’ve had enough.  For always listening and accepting.  For a heart of gold and a smile like no other.  For your strength and perseverance through the good and bad, thank you for your example of love.

I love you all more than you know.

Now having 2 little precious girls of my own…I cherish the moments when they share a smile and even a toy.  Their relationship is growing already and I pray they have that special, unique connection that only sisters have.   Through the good and bad, they will always have each other.

 

 

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good bye summer, hello fall

It’s been a BUSY summer for us this year.  New baby, potty training, traveling . . . I can’t believe Fall is here already!  Time is flying by so fast that sometimes I just want to hit the pause button and slow things down a bit to enjoy these precious moments.  I can’t believe that Adeline is 2 1/2 already, such a fun (and at times trying) stage.  I love the holidays and I’m really looking forward to sharing this time of year with Adeline as she is able to understand and participate in SO MUCH MORE now.  First up – Fall projects and Thanksgiving!  Here is our “to do” for the upcoming season – look forward to updates on our progress.  Happy Fall =)

“Give thanks to the lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.” Psalm 107:1

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yummy little almond sandwich cookies


Almond flavored cookies – YUM.  I came across this deliciously simple sugar cookie recipe from Pillsbury a few months back and they have become a huge hit in my home.  Adeline and I had some fun making them again this Labor Day weekend and I think we only have 2-3 left already (only because my husband hid them).  They are great cookies to make with kids to serve at a party or for a simple little treat! Adeline picked the frosting color (lavender was the choice this time) and loved “sandwiching” the cookies after I iced.  Enjoy

INGREDIENTS

cookies

1 roll (16.5 oz) Pillsbury® refrigerated sugar cookies
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 teaspoon almond extract
1 tablespoon granulated sugar

filling

2 cups powdered sugar
1/4 cup butter or margarine, softened
4 teaspoons milk
1/4 teaspoon almond extract
1 drop red food color

DIRECTIONS

1 Heat oven to 350°F. In large bowl, break up cookie dough. Stir or knead in flour and almond extract until well blended.
2 Shape dough into 180 (1/2-inch) balls. Place balls 1 inch apart on ungreased cookie sheets. Press bottom of glass dipped into granulated sugar on each ball until 1/4 inch thick; prick top of each with a fork.
3 Bake 6 to 8 minutes until set but not brown. Cool 1 minute; remove from cookie sheets to cooling rack. Cool completely, about 15 minutes.
4 Meanwhile, in small bowl, beat filling ingredients with electric mixer on low speed until smooth and creamy. Spread about 1 teaspoon filling on bottoms of half of the cookies. Top each with another cookie, bottom side down; press gently. Store in refrigerator.

Tips

- make them small – they are sweet!!

- add a drop of food coloring to the frosting for some fun

recipe obtained from PILLSBURY
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I’m not perfect

print from www.emilyleypaper.com

Recently having our second little girl I am reminded of how hectic life can get.  Newborns are hard work! I am constantly feeding, burping or putting the little one to sleep while trying to entertain and provide an adequate amount of attention to my two year old…not to mention keeping the house in some what of an order, provide meals, clean cloths, be a loving wife and MAYBE have some time to myself (??!) . . . whew, I’m EXHAUSTED!

I find myself getting frustrated because I just can’t get everything done.  I overwhelm myself (often with the things that are not so important) consequently turning into a cranky and irritable mom, which I have found often leads to cranky and irritable children and husband.  But when I get to thinking about all of this and my (sometimes) bad attitude, I realize that I do it to myself.  I dwell on things that are not important and hold myself to some unobtainable standard that I set for myself.  I am not perfect.  There will be days (many days) when things just do not go according to “my plan” or “my schedule” – and that’s OKAY because it’s not about ME.

In the big picture, some things just don’t matter that much.  I am blessed with an amazing, loving family.  If I dwell too much about everything I have to do, I’m going to miss some amazing moments with this family.  It is by God’s grace that I have the privilege of being a mother…. I am reminded that sometimes I just need to take a deep breath, step back, pray and re-prioritize my “to do” list.

God did not give me this role to walk around anxious and stressed out all day, I will miss His rewards by my own ignorance and my family will reap the consequences.  My children are watching me everyday..they observe how I deal and react to EVERY situation.  I want them to see a mom of GRACE who knows how to stay calm, react with wisdom, enjoy life and be CHRIST-LIKE. We will have good days and bad days, but each day is a blessing where we can all learn and grow.  And for those really really bad days – we just need to remember that tomorrow is a new day!

Emily Ley (from www.emilyleypaper.com) could not have said it better when she said

“I will hold myself to a standard of GRACE not PERFECTION.”

Check out her blog HERE to print your own copy of her great, free printable pictured above – AND put it on your desk.

 

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