
Breastfeeding – you really have no idea what it entails until you have to go through it. Amelia is 8 months old today and until just a few months ago when she started solids, she was exclusively breastfed. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that babies be breastfed for one year, I was able to accomplish this with Adeline and my goal is to do the same with Amelia. Breastfeeding is not as “natural” as one may think it is. I mean, we are literally, physically made to breastfeed – how difficult could it be? That’s what went through my head when I had Adeline and decided to try breastfeeding. My experiences with both girls were initially very different.
With Adeline I had a very tough time with nursing…those first few weeks, maybe even months were terrible. I had trouble with her latching on, being engorged and it HURT – a lot. I was so uncomfortable at times that I dreaded nursing, I would even pump and give her the bottle to avoid actually nursing (it was that painful). I wanted to quit, but I was determined to try and stick with it. I have a MPH, I did my research on this, I knew how good it was for baby & mom. I’m so glad I stuck with because it did get SO MUCH BETTER.
With Amelia I was more mentally prepared on what to expect. Surprisingly though, it was easier the second time around. I wasn’t nearly in as much pain as I was with Adeline. I don’t know if I was just holding Adeline incorrectly due to the C-section or if it’s just easier with a second baby? Who knows, I was happy. The beginning stages still has it’s ups and down and you still feel like a cow. But long term, it goes by quick, the bond is priceless and the benefits are endless.
Everyone is different, every baby is different. Do not overwhelm yourself with guilt and anxiety if you cannot breastfeed – as moms we put enough pressure on ourselves as it is. Different things work for different people. But if you want to give it a try – do it. It’s not a walk in the park for everyone though, read up on it so you at least somewhat know what to expect and your not setting yourself up to fail. There is no formula like your breast milk despite what manufacturers try to convince you of, the chemical composition of your breast milk is the perfect, source of nutrition made specifically for your baby.
Being a new mom I always found tips and advice from other moms to be very helpful (I will take what I can get to try and figure this stuff out). Now that I’ve been able to do this with two kids I feel more confident in what I’m doing. You have to find what works for you and your lifestyle…but here are some question that I had as a mom and the answers I have found to work for me.
How do you know when your baby is hungry? How often do you nurse?
I am not the kind of person that can just “whip it out” whenever my baby starts crying out in public. Nope, can’t do it. Not comfortable with it and not a fan of the “feeding on demand” philosophy. If I would be feeding Amelia on demand I would be exhausted, barely sleeping, worrying if she is “snack” feeding or getting full feedings and not be able to go anywhere those first few months without the baby. Instead, I did “Parent Directed Feeding” (which I first read about in Baby Wise
) – I basically put her on a feeding “schedule.” In the beginning I nursed A LOT, every 2.5-3 hours, 8-10 times a day. But as Amelia got older and could be stretched a bit longer, I slowly decreased my number of feedings. She wasn’t eating any less, just less frequently. This was great because it was manageable, we established a consistent sleep/feeding/play time routine. When I wanted to go on a date or possibly find the time get my hair done, I could leave the little princess with a babysitter and not panic or worry that she might get hungry - I just worked around her “schedule.” I was always worried about how am I going to occupy a two year while trying to nurse Amelia. It’s really not that bad, it’s just a matter of balancing the routines and making sure one is occupied while the other is being fed. Mind you this does not always go as smoothly as it may sound. There are (many) times when she goes through growth spurts, wakes up early from naps or is just very upset and I feed her because I don’t know what else do to. But you do what you have to and then just try to get back on track.
How do you breastfeed while transitioning to solids?
This is a question I remember asking myself with both Adeline & Amelia – what’s the best way to transition to solids but still continue breastfeeding? Breastfeeding still continues to be your main source of nutrition for your baby, it’s just supplemented by baby food. I started by just giving her a bit of rice cereal in the mornings (after first feeding) until she got the hang of it. Then I gradually increased to other foods and supplementing her afternoon and evening feedings. Her meals align with our family meals so we can all sit down and eat together. She has an opportunity to watch her big sis Adeline eat and I strongly believe this makes a big impact on her easting habits. (amazing how she idolizes her sister already)
What is your “schedule” at 8 months old?
I was always curious to know what other moms do, especially when I was trying to figure out routines. It’s just helpful to get ideas or try something new as these “schedules” are always changing. Here is our current routine at 8 months old: ~ 7 am – Amelia wakes up and nurses, we get breakfast ready and all eat. ~10 am – nap time till about 11:30 – 12. Nurse and then eat lunch. Playtime until 2:00 – 2:30 – then nap time till about 4 pm. Then she nurses again and plays a bit while I get dinner ready. We eat dinner, clean up, family time. 7:15 – 7:30 – bed time routine and nurse right before I put her down.
Every baby is different, I can’t stress this enough. Each baby has their own eating and sleeping habits that you can develop into a “routine” that works for you. It’s crazy trying to keep up with my two precious blessings, but having some structure is what keeps this household sane and functioning (for the most part).
What has been your greatest nursing challenge?
Amelia, being the sweet heart that she is has decided to throw a little challenge my way with all this. She refuses to take the bottle. I’ve tried skipping feedings, different bottles (even this Mimi Jumi bottle which I have named the “boob bottle”), leaving the house, different people giving her the bottle, but after days of torture and multiple attempts I gave up. She won (this time). This was never an issue with Adeline so I wasn’t expecting it. But I introduced the bottle with Adeline at a very early stage, I waited with Amelia till I believe around 4 months. I don’t know if it was because of this or just the different experience (she also refuses the pacifier) but the little stinker is stubborn. She would go to bed hungry before she would drink out of the bottle. Eventually I’m sure she would have had to take the bottle if she was hungry enough (right?!) but at the end of the day it just wasn’t worth the torture anymore. I would just have to be “that mom” with a baby stuck to me for every feeding for a few more months . . . she’s worth it
What are your nursing essentials?

1. Nursing cover, it’s definitely good to have one when your out and about and need to nurse . . . balboa nursing cover is my favorite. You get really good at finding the best “nursing spots” around town. Many malls and attractions now also have nursing rooms for moms.
2. Nipple cream, so helpful at first!! I used Lansinoh lanolin with Adeline and then Motherlove Herbal Nipple Cream
with Amelia. I didn’t need it as much with Amelia but I preferred the motherlove.
3. Nursing PJ’s and bras. Do not underestimate the importance of a good nursing bra, you pay for what you get. Go and try some on to see what works for you, love these comfy ones and sleep bras. Nursing pj’s are probably not essential, but so nice to have. I have the best, soft, comfy maternity/nursing pj’s from a pea in the pod and I loooovvveee them. It was the only thing I could fit into during third trimester, loved having cute pj’s at the hospital and was great for those middle of the night feedings when your half asleep (get one with the little robe – so comfy!).
4. Nursing Pads such as the Lansinoh disposable nursing pads (my favorite and Target now sells them in packs of 100).
6. Breast pump – there are so many different breast pumps available. Medela is an established brand, I received the Medela “Pump in style advanced” when I was pregnant with Adeline as a baby shower gift, no complaints.
6. Nursing pillow such as the boppy – I love my boppy (doubles as a support for sitting when baby get older).
7. Baby Connect – a electronic baby tacker and log. Put this on your iphone or ipad to track baby’s sleeping and feeding patterns. So helpful in the beginning when you are trying to establish a pattern!
